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 that occurred to writer and disability rights activist Imani Barbarin: She was in her community swimming pool when a man threw her crutch into the pool to "help her swim." Naturally, the crutch sank, and she had to fetch it from under water.

"I had no need for it at all — water is a great equalizer for people with disabilities — but he assumed that I would. So he sank my crutch, and it rusted for the better part of six months," says Barbarin, who has cerebral palsy in her lower half and considers herself a pretty good swimmer.

Upon further reflection, she says, she realized that experiences like that have been happening throughout her entire life. People call her "inspiring" and "brave," pray over her in parking lots and follow her into bathrooms to "help."

Instances like these play into a common phenomenon known as 

 It's where non-disabled people objectify disabled people to inspire and motivate themselves.

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Now the hashtag, Barbarin says, is allowing people with disabilities to share the ways that encounters with non-disabled people make them uncomfortable. That includes odd encounters, like when someone was 

 that a deaf woman could be pretty, to profoundly 

 — like a person who uses a wheelchair being asked whether they can have sex.

"There's really no personal accountability or societal accountability on how society treats disabled people," says Barbarin. "People think anything is OK under the umbrella of thinking that they're helping disabled people, but we didn't ask for it."

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Society is often "not prepared" to encounter disabled people, she says.

"There seems to be this sense where disabled people are kind of seen as oddities and forced to go through this world to be singled out and othered," says Barbarin. "There's really no common sense attached when able-bodied people approach disabled people."

Barbarin was born with her disability and was diagnosed at 2 years old. She doesn't remember a time when she wasn't disabled but has plenty of memories of people acting differently around her.

She says she often doesn't know what to say when someone makes an inappropriate comment — "each time is like the first time," she says. At first she tried to play into her disability to make other people more comfortable, by cracking jokes before they could make them. But she says that made her feel like a "showpiece."

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Barbarin hopes the hashtag gives people a window into behavior that they don't realize is rude or offensive. More importantly, she hopes it gives disabled people the strength and empowerment to call this type of behavior out next time they experience it.

"The most impactful result of this hashtag is that disabled people get to talk to one another and feel not alone," says the activist. "A lot of times in the moment you really don't know what to say, and you kinda feel like you're letting yourself down in a way because you're not sticking up for yourself. But this gives people a chance to revisit those moments and maybe, hopefully, put some of them to peace."

Hafsa Quraishi is an intern on NPR's National Desk.

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"There's really no common sense attached when able-bodied people approach disabled people," says activist Imani Barbarin, who started the hashtag.

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