Family shocked by alleged murder-suicide of couple with young children

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Chee Nou Xiong, left, and Joua True Xiong, right, speak at a press conference on Thursday, following the murder-suicide deaths of Yia Xiong and Ka Lor.
Drew Arrieta | Sahan Journal

The family of five young children whose parents died in an apparent murder-suicide this week in St. Paul is asking for help from the community.

According to a St. Paul police report, Yia Xiong, 33, allegedly shot and killed his wife Ka Lor, 30, before taking his own life on Tuesday evening at a home on the 2000 block of California Avenue East. They are survived by their five children, ranging in age from 2 to 9.

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Yia Xiong (left) and Ka Lor. Authorities say they died in an apparent murder-suicide on Tuesday, leaving five young children.
Courtesy of Hmong 18 Council

At a news conference at the Hmong 18 Council on Thursday, Xiong’s older brother Chee Nou Xiong said he was shocked by the deaths.

“Just thinking about my sister-in-law, and my brother. It’s, it’s just heartbroken. They won’t be there anymore,” Chee Nou Xiong said.

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"My whole body still shakes," he said. "It's just something where it pulls your heart out and a piece of it's not there anymore."

According to Chee Nou Xiong, the children’s father told them to go downstairs on Tuesday night. The oldest, a 9-year-old boy, then heard three gunshots. He went upstairs, saw his parents on the floor and called 911.

Xiong said the boy then got his four younger sisters out of the home before they could see their parents’ bodies. Xiong called his nephew a “hero little guy.”

Xiong said he didn't know what led to the shooting, saying he wished his brother would have reached out so he could have intervened.

"I think that every moment, I mean what if he could've given me a call?” Chee Nou Xiong said. “That second, I would've been able to just drive over there — 'Hey, let's go out, or talk somewhere, or do something besides being in the house.'"

The family and the Hmong 18 Council are asking for donations for funeral costs and other expenses for the children through a GoFundMe site.

"We just need help," Chee Nou Xiong said. "Especially with five kids that's still so young. They still have a bright future. ... That's a reason I want to reach out to the whole community to help as much as they can, for the five kids."

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