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 has been adapted into a star-studded film, starring the likes of Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni. But the

much-talked-about film is facing criticism for appearing to glamorize its depiction of domestic abuse.

The film, which draws from Hoover's own parents' relationship,

tells the story of florist Lily Bloom, who falls in love with a neurosurgeon named Ryle Kincaid.

During their courtship, Kincaid goes from charming and charismatic to physically and emotionally abusive. Bloom eventually ends the relationship, telling her daughter that the cycle of violence "ends with us," reflecting the film's title. 

Based on promotional materials for the film, however, some critics say the message about abuse might not come across to viewers.

"The trailer does a disservice to the fact that this could really raise awareness," said activist and domestic violence survivor Ashley Bendiksen. "But it seems to just be glossing over what the movie's actually about."

In one trailer — set to the song "Strangers" by Ethel Cain, which includes the lyrics "don’t talk to strangers or you might fall in love" — the movie seems to hit all the right notes of a typical romance movie.

Viewers see the two main characters — played by Lively and Baldoni — launch into a romantic relationship. You're teased with the potential of a love triangle, down to a fistfight between the two male suitors. And there's a brief bout of rage from Kincaid as he breaks a piece of furniture in his apartment.

But the full story is much darker. The abuse Bloom suffers at the hands of Kincaid in the film includes being pushed down a flight of stairs and attempted rape.

"When we use trauma as entertainment, it can feel really exploitative, and just irresponsible, and, in many ways, tone-deaf to the actual issue," Bendiksen said.

The film, which was released on Aug. 9, has 

 a respectable $242 million worldwide. But despite its success at the box office, criticisms have been scathing. 

, a smiling Lively sits alongside the novel's author, Hoover, and encourages the audience to "grab your friends, wear your florals and head out to see it." Florals in this context are a reference to her character, Bloom, owning a flower shop in the film.

Comments on the video criticized Lively's upbeat tone and attempts to promote the movie as a lighthearted love story.

"As someone who lived through DV as a child, 'grab your friends, wear your florals' is a terrible phrase to use about a film of this nature," one commenter wrote.

"You had an opportunity to turn this into a beautiful thing for women who suffer every day. Shame on you and your PR team for turning a blind eye," another said.

Many of the comments praised Baldoni, however, for his style in promoting the story. 

, Baldoni says his message for viewers is to always have hope.

"Everybody has the ability to end a cycle that they didn't ask for. We can all say, 'It ends with us' in our life," Baldoni said.

Baldoni directed the film, and Lively is one of its producers.

"Thank you so much for being the ONLY person on this cast promoting the actual point of this film," one commenter wrote in response.

"It's funny to me how the person that is portraying the offender is the only one making the point of the actual story."

Brandon Sklenar, who plays Baldoni's romantic rival in the film, said that he and his fellow cast-mates understood the gravity of telling a story about domestic abuse.

"Trust me when I tell you, there isn't a single person involved in the making of this film that was not aware of the responsibility we had in making this. A responsibility to all the women who have experienced generational trauma - domestic abuse - or struggle with looking in the mirror and loving who they see," Sklenar wrote in a 

"This movie is a harsh reality check for the men who need to get their sh-t together and take responsibility for themselves and their actions."

Comments on the statement were turned off, but comments on unrelated posts took the cast to task over the way the film was being promoted.

"Your most recent post is just perpetuating how TONE DEAF this whole cast is (besides Justin). We don't want to hear you all defend each other. How about apologize and change the way you're all promoting the movie and talk about the issue – [domestic violence]," wrote one frustrated commenter.

Hoover, in a separate interview with Lively, said she felt that the film had been "faithful" to the story she wrote.

Obbie West, a spoken-word artist and advocate for victims of domestic abuse, said that the framing of the film could wind up being triggering for abuse victims.

"Prior to presentations or prior to trainings, I give trigger warnings, and the trigger warning lets anyone in the room know that this content is going to be very sensitive in nature. That way, if any of it aligns with something they've been through and they feel triggered, we identify who are the people in the room that's qualified to help you," West said. 

Trailers for the film do not include any sort of trigger warnings for content.

"So when you present this movie as a love movie without that precursor, then you have a theater full of people who aren't aware that they may potentially be triggered."

West said that in framing the movie as a love story, it could be damaging, particularly to young people who don't have a healthy frame of reference for love and aren't as easily able to recognize signs of abuse.

"If this is common practice and we're constantly presenting love in this way, then for those children who are still developing, it normalizes it and desensitizes them to abuse,"

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