Are American views on infidelity changing?

Eros wasn't driven to facilitate ideal romantic relationships. He might use arrows to spur illicit affairs. In one popular tale, he shoots Apollo with a golden arrow, prompting him to fall in love with the nymph Daphne. Eros then hits Daphne with a leaden arrow, leaving her repulsed by Apollo.
Cupid with the Soap Bubble, Rembrant Harmenszoon van Rijn

The dating website Ashley Madison was recently hacked, affecting the personal information of as many as 33 million registered users seeking affairs. Clearly there are a lot of people who are using the Internet to be unfaithful. Does that mean our opinions about infidelity have changed?


"My brother is dating my best friend. About 3 years into the relationship, she cheated on him once with a work friend. She was traumatized by her act and racked with guilt because she became a "bad person." Even after coming clean, she was depressed and I know she had trouble thinking she wasn't good enough anymore. This tolerance of indiscretions is a departure from shame culture which I think is healthier for everyone involved. 2yrs later, those two are now engaged," writes Mia Culpa.

"My husband of 10+ years has fallen in love with a woman from Europe via facebook. They are making plans to meet. Hes in mid-60s and she is 38 with 3 small children. Its as devastating to a marriage as out right in your face cheating," writes Rita.

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